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Real love is “caring about the happiness of others without wanting anything for ourselves in return.” Listen as relationship expert Dr. Greg Baer explains Why Most Of Us Do Not Get Enough Real Love, and offer an insight on how to turn that situation around.

In question number one of the top 10 we defined Real Love:

Real love is caring about the happiness of others without wanting anything for ourselves in return.

It’s not real love when I do what you want and you like me, its real love when I’m stupid and inconvenient but you don’t feel disappointed or irritated at me.

There is no disappointment or anger in Real Love.

Why do I say that?

Imagine that I’m describing to you a mistake that you’ve made. I’m pointing out ways that you could do a particular task in a way that would be more efficient, faster, even more fun for you. You can feel from my tone, my posture, my expression, everything about me that my concern is for you… but the instant I’m irritated at you, you know that my primary concern is for whom? It’s obvious isn’t it?

The moment I’m disappointed or irritated at you, I’m virtually screaming (with my behavior) that you have failed to do something for me or you have done something that irritates me. It’s all about me and while I’m standing above you screaming “me, me, me,” is there any way in the world you could feel my unconditional concern for your happiness? Not a chance! None!

And that is why something like 99% of us don’t feel unconditionally loved.

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From the time we were small children, when we were quite, clean, obedient, got good grades, (when we were good, in other words) our parents and others smiled, spoke in gentle tones and told us in other words that they approved of us but we also saw what happened the instant we screwed up, when we fought with our sister, made too much noise, embarrassed our parents in public and so on, all those signs of approval were gone in a second.

It was not intentional on anyone’s part but because of the dramatic change in almost everyone’s behavior what lesson did we learn? There could be only one, “When you’re good, I love you, when you’re not, i don’t”. That is not unconditional love, real love. And it left us feeling empty, alone, unloved; it left us in pain, in most cases for the rest of our lives. Is there a way out of this tragedy? Oh sure. As a member of RealLove.com you learn a great deal about how to find and share real love, how to heal all the wounds of the past and how to find the profound happiness and rich relationships you have always wanted.

See larger image Real Love: The Truth About Finding Unconditional Love & Fulfilling Relationships (Paperback) By (author) Greg Baer List Price: $16.00 USD New From: $7.00 In Stock Used from: $3.39 In Stock Release date January 15, 2004.