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Each relationship can be found in any one of the four seasons of love. Which one are you in? Check out this video by relationship expert, Dr. Gary Chapman.

In my book The Four Seasons of Marriage, I used the seasons to describe the quality of marriage. It has nothing to do with how long you have been married. It has everything to do with the quality of your marriage.

• A Winter marriage is cold & harsh. We are not talking – or if we do talk, we are arguing with each other. We are hunkered down in the igloo. It’s a bitter winter…
• Spring on the other hand is the time of excitement. We know we love each other, we are excited about each other, talking to each other, plans for the future. Most people get married in spring, but you can go from spring to winter on the honeymoon, and some couples do…
• Summer, this is the relaxed date of marriage. You have learned how to process some of your differences. You have learned to accept some of those things which you can’t process and just allow each other to be their own person.
  You are relaxed in your relationship, you trust each other. Typically, also, in the summer you continue to work on your marriage. You have learned that marriage does not continue without work. You know the flowers look beautiful in the summer but you have to water the flowers in the summer… a couple in the Summer stage of their relationship understands that.
• The Fall season of marriage is where everything looks nice on the outside. I live in North Carolina: the leaves are changing, the color is so beautiful and it all looks beautiful. The fact is leaves are about to fall of the trees and that’s the way it is in the fall marriage.
  Things look nice on the outside people say “ooh, what a nice couple” but on the inside the couple knows that other things are happening. They are uncertain; they may be blaming each other. The marriage is deteriorating… they have neglected each other and they are drifting apart from each other.

I am trying to help couples beside which season a marriage where in and then in the second half of the book am trying to give them some strategies that will help them improve or enhance the seasons of their marriage.