25 Feb, 2010 in Communication by

Why doesn’t my partner know that I love them? – Dr. Gary Chapman

Do you ever find yourself loving and giving in a relationship, and your partner doesn’t seem to acknowledge or recognize your efforts? In this quick video, Dr. Gary Chapman explains how we can make sure our loving relationship thrive and grow, despite our differences.

I think most of us in marriage are sincere.

We love our spouses, and if you ask us we can tell you how we are expressing that love. The problem is your spouse is not like you.

What makes them feel love is not necessarily what makes you feel love. You are very sincere, and you’re expressing your love to them, but you are not speaking their love language. Consequently they may not feel loved – even though you are sincere. If they were doing for you what you are doing for them you would feel loved… but that’s not true with them.

And I think that’s why some people get frustrated. I have husbands who say: “I do this and this and this and then she says she doesn’t feel like I love her. What else am I supposed to do?”

Well there is something else because what you are doing is expressing love in your love language and what she wants to hear is love in her love language. When you discover her language and you start speaking it she will feel loved … and that’s the whole objective in my book called The Five Love Languages.

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